My name is Laura, and I live in small town with my husband and our daughter, Gabriela. She will be two in January.
Gabriela was born at Greene Memorial Hospital with Molly Dickinson, a Certified Nurse Midwife. Molly’s calm, patient manner was a perfect match for me, and without a doubt I would have returned to Greene for my future children. However, the hospital closed the midwifery center in 2006 and none of the three midwives are delivering babies anymore. My husband and I had planned to have another child in late 2008, and after a lot of thought, I decided that I wanted an out-of-hospital birth with a midwife. We chose someone whom I already knew well and in whom I have supreme confidence and trust.
I know that I want to have another drug-free, natural child birth. In 2005, when I was pregnant with Gabriela, five of my friends were also pregnant. Four of them chose obstetricians for their births; the fifth chose a Greene midwife but was transferred to a doctor for a c-section. Their anecdotes are startling:
- Two of the five wanted drug-free births, but neither of them was able to accomplish it because they both had c-sections.
- Four out of five were induced. At her 39 week check up, one was scheduled for an induction at 40 weeks. Another, at her 40 week appointment, was scheduled for an induction without anyone even asking if she wanted it.
- Three ended up with c-sections. One of them was convinced by her doctor, during labor, that her baby was just too big – he weighed about 7 pounds at birth, and my friend is not petite or small-boned.
- Another friend said her doctor barely showed up in time – her daughter had already crowned when he walked in the room for the first time.
In contrast, my daughter was born just shy of 42 weeks. During my pregnancy, I was asked if I wanted to be induced, and I said no, as long as there was no medical problem. After 40 weeks, I was monitored twice a week to make sure Gabriela and I were both healthy. Once labor started, Molly arrived at the hospital about 30 minutes after I did, and she checked on me, stayed with me, and talked with me through all eight hours at the hospital.
I feel strongly that my best chance at having a happy, natural, drug-free birth is with a midwife, not a doctor.
Good Samaritan and Miami Valley Hospital are the only hospitals in the Dayton area that have midwives on staff. Good Samaritan is not in my insurance network, so MVH is my only “choice”. However, the MVH midwives are not on call seven days a week, so there is a possibility that a midwife won’t attend my birth. In addition, MVH is a 30 to 40 minute drive from my house. When Gabriela was born, we lived less than five minutes from Greene Memorial Hospital. I want to labor at home as long as possible, and I don’t like the thought of spending so much time trapped in a car, unable to walk around. I’m also concerned about my labor stalling because of the transition from one
location to another.
Ultimately, I want an out-of-hospital birth because even though I was very satisfied with Gabriela’s birth, there are some things I wanted to do differently the next time:
- It’s important that I choose all the people who are with me during my labor. Molly and my doulas were wonderful, but there was a nurse at Greene Memorial who drove me absolutely crazy with her busy work, like changing empty trash bags in my room and just staring at me while I labored.
- I want a more relaxing environment. After Gabriela was born, I was exhausted but unable to sleep because it was an unfamiliar setting. The nurses checked on me every hour or two and constantly asked when she last nursed and for how long. They were always concerned that she wasn’t eating enough. Their obsession made me anxious, and I began to doubt myself. I felt vindicated later when a midwife told me that babies generally don’t nurse much in the first 24 hours, because they are still recovering from the birth (just like moms!)
I left the hospital 24 hours after Gabriela’s birth. My hospital stay was marked by anxiety and tension caused by well-meaning nurses. In contrast, I finally was relaxed and truly peaceful once I was home with my family.
For all these reasons, I want my next birth to be an out-of-hospital birth. However, my chosen midwife recently contacted me to say that she has decided to stop attending births due to the current political climate in Ohio. I’m weighing my options to decide whether or not I want to have a child next year after all, and if so, where I will give birth.
I want women in Ohio to truly have a CHOICE about where and how they give birth. Right now I feel like I have no choice, and I don’t want my daughter to grow up and have her children in that kind of environment. I want midwifery to be a legal profession in Ohio, like it is in 24 US states and much of Europe, with home births, birthing centers, and hospitals accepted opportunities for all pregnant women.
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