I recently heard from some newly-married friends who have just learned they are expecting their first baby. They wrote asking for advice in planning for a safe hospital birth:
It doesn’t look like a home birth will be possible because there is no available midwife, so we’ll be having the baby in the hospital. I don’t want to be pressured into a C-section because we hope to have many more children in the future.
So my questions for you are:
1) What would you consider a necessary reason to have a C-section? (Breech? 36-hour labor? Placenta previa? Fetal heart decels or failed nonstress test?)
2) What would you consider a necessary reason to have an episiotomy?
3) What would you consider a necessary reason to have an epidural?
4) What should we look for in a doula?
5) Any other advice?
You’re wise to be thinking about this now. With Cesarean rates approaching 30% in most of the U.S. (Ohio included), the vast majority are not medically necessary and as you probably know, the risks of Cesarean compared to vaginal birth increase significantly with additional pregnancies. Also, one Cesarean will make it much more difficult to find a practitioner willing to work with you for a vaginal birth in future pregnancies.
In my experience having babies, talking to other people about their births, and providing labor support, the most important factor in your birth experience is actually only indirectly related to how well-informed and prepared you are and what plans you make for the birth. I believe that being extremely careful in selecting your primary caregiver for the birth is more important than anything else you do to prepare for your baby’s birth. (But be sure to find out whether the person you’ve chosen will actually be there for your birth. Some practices rotate who is on-call.)
When interviewing possible providers, ask for their specific Cesarean rate. Most hospital-based midwives (CNMs) have a rate of 10% or less, out-of-hospital midwives (CNM or CPM) tend to be even lower (3-7%). 10-15% is great for a ob/gyn. If your ob is performing surgery on one in every three or four of their patients, that’s not very good odds for you. Ask about their suture rate for vaginal births, not just their episiotomy rate (if they can’t, or won’t, give you an actual number, that is probably a bad sign). Some practitioners will agree not to do an episiotomy but really have no idea how to avoid tears. (My own opinion, not backed up by any studies, is that your best bet is a waterbirth with the mother’s hands only guiding the birth of the head, but that’s probably not possible in the hospital; your second best bet is finding a practitioner — usually a midwife — who takes pride in an intact perineum and rarely needs to suture.) If you possibly can, ask the labor and delivery nurses about the ob or CNM you are considering. They know which ob is “the episiotomy queen” and which doctor’s arrival prompts cracks of “Elvis has entered the building”.
If you have a CNM or ob who you can trust, then you will not need your doula to be “second-line defense” against procedures that you don’t want. If your goal is an unmedicated birth, you need a doula who can be focused on non-pharmacological pain relief and physical / emotional support, because most hospitals are not set up to facilitate the parents who don’t want an epidural and the labor and delivery nurses don’t have much to offer besides pain meds (or time to do the one-on-one, ongoing labor support that is needed).
There’s a tendency in some natural-childbirth books and childbirth education classes to really emphasize the husband / father’s role in labor support and I have seen some men who because of this feel left out or inadequate by their wife’s desire for another woman’s support in labor. A good doula will help the husband effectively help his wife rather than coming between them, but from my perspective after 6 births, the labor support provided by a midwife or doula is very different and not to be confused with the husband’s participation in childbirth. Not all men are naturally good at labor support or naturally inclined to a particular interest in it. I love my husband and I do like to have him there when our babies are born, but his presence is honestly as much for him as for me; I “need” my midwife there much more than I “need” my husband. Not everyone feels this way of course and some husbands are much more “into” the process of their childrens’ births than mine is but there aren’t a lot of voices out there saying that you can still have a great marriage and a lovely natural birth even if the husband is not the ideal Bradley coach, so I thought I’d mention it.
There are a very limited number of “absolute indications” for C-section — placenta previa or abruption, cord prolapse, shoulder presentation. But that doesn’t mean that every C-section that is not done for one of those reasons is therefore unnecessary or preventable. There are so many factors in an individual situation that you can’t always come up with a protocol that will guarantee the right decision. For instance, I would not consider a breech presentation an indication for a C-section — UNLESS I was absolutely unable to find a practitioner who was experienced and comfortable with doing a breech birth. Having a breech baby with an inexperienced doctor or midwife who was nervous about doing a vaginal breech birth might be a lot more risky (for that birth and that baby) than a well-planned C-section. (So you see, again it comes down to trusting your caregiver.) Prolonged labor is a common justification for Cesareans. I would tell you that as long as baby’s heart tones are good and mother is able to eat, drink, and rest, labor can continue as long as it needs to (and I’ve had some long ones… grand multips often tend to have long start-and-stop labors.) Once you go to the hospital, however, your ability to eat, drink, and rest is often severely restricted, and there can be a lot of pressure to have the baby within a certain time frame.
The same is true for other interventions: there are occasions when, used appropriately, they are extremely helpful; they all tend to be grossly overused in modern obstetrics; figuring out when they are appropriate is not always a matter of applying a cut-and-dried formula; and medical management of labor can frequently create the necessity for the intervention. Your birth is not necessarily going to follow the textbook and determining if, when, and how it is appropriate to intervene in a particular labor is not always a straightforward matter. If anything unexpected arises, you are ultimately dependent on the wisdom and experience of your care provider, and if having a birth with only the minimum necessary intervention is important to you, your first concern should be finding a doctor or midwife who shares that motivation.
What advice would you share with first-time expectant parents? Have your say in the comments.